My friend put her dog down today. G-dog was 13 years old and was almost crippled. He could barely walk and he often fell down trying to walk across the floor. She struggled with the decision and after consulting with a friend (who is also a vet), she decided it was time.
The problem was that her dh did not think it was time. He accused her of rushing it and making the decision because G-dog was an "inconvenience" to her (yes, true it was inconvenient for her to carry a 60 pound dog up and down the stairs). He then told the kids that their mom was making a hasty decision and last night told them that maybe it was not yet time. How unfair to those poor children to do that to them knowing that their dog was going to be gone the next day.
Then he told my friend that he resented her for making the decision, that he probably will hold it against her for a long time and might not be able to forgive her.
Ok, the guy is obviously hurting and upset that their family pet is being put down but that is just so cruel and mean to say to someone who has to make the decision on her own. He refused to see that the dog could not walk down the hall without struggling or falling. He is the one being unfair to the dog for making G-dog suffer because he is not ready to say good-bye.
And my poor friend is then going through this alone. Well, she of course has her friends but not the support of the one person whom she really needs support from.
This has opened my eyes too because I can see that I have such a wonderful husband. There is no way he would ever say such cruel and hurtful things to me. Ever.
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